tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post2565050503707413724..comments2023-05-20T07:00:47.392-04:00Comments on Musings of a Sefardi-Israeli-American Gal: He Knows.Sefardi Galhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03041724538794932296noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-8821573725740413702011-10-25T22:49:54.497-04:002011-10-25T22:49:54.497-04:00Did you ever stop to think maybe he ended up off t...Did you ever stop to think maybe he ended up off the derech because he failed to marry a girl like you?<br /><br />Did you ever consider the possibility that your ben zug is the type of guy that in your absence could descend to truly low depths and together with you could reach for the stars?<br /><br />Did you ever consider that instead of sighing a 'phew' on this post as if you dodged a bullet you should be crying tears for the loss of what could have been.. what He could have been... the potential relationship you yourself write that you felt... the guy you supposedly 'loved' so much and yet so glibly can toss away the moment he no longer fits your "expectations"...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-72408252905809981132011-06-19T14:13:24.676-04:002011-06-19T14:13:24.676-04:00Sefardi Gal, check out my comment on this blog:
h...Sefardi Gal, check out my comment on this blog:<br /><br />http://orthonomics.blogspot.com/2011/06/some-people-will-use-anything-as.html<br /><br />It is the first of 17 comments.Mr. Cohenhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/DerechEmet/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-4001740230807162512011-06-14T10:58:58.446-04:002011-06-14T10:58:58.446-04:00Devorah - yup. Even getting a tiny glimpse is a br...Devorah - yup. Even getting a tiny glimpse is a bracha. It gives closure. The really tough stuff is what is hidden until after 120 shana.<br /><br />Corti - I'm happy you've gained from my nuttiness :)<br /><br />Stuckinshidduchim - apparently, this is a common story! The fact that it's a common occurrence makes it heartbreaking but also reassuring. B"H despite it all, Leah was zocha to marry Yaakov. So, there's hope!<br /><br />FeistyFrummy - ugh. Infatuation is horrible. Reading the book I Only Want to Get Married Once by Chana Levitan definitely helps one control the amount of infatuation (s)he invests into a relationship.<br />I do this to myself. It's almost as if I enjoy building up my hope, and as if I don't want to be helped.<br />Oh well.<br />B"H HaShem is watching over us! You're totally right :)Sefardi Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03041724538794932296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-75568989221192039762011-06-14T05:00:00.946-04:002011-06-14T05:00:00.946-04:00Wow! This sounds extremely familiar! I tend to put...Wow! This sounds extremely familiar! I tend to put the guys I like on extremely high pedestals of kedusha, only to find out very soon thereafter that they were not the kadosh people I thought they were...by any means. I never thought it would happen to me but infatuation is so scary because it COMPLETELY blinds you. But it's good to know that no matter what, Hashem is there for us, guiding our way throughout the darkness.FeistyFrummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00087256024971595173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-90413678046048964252011-06-14T01:25:18.172-04:002011-06-14T01:25:18.172-04:00Great post, as usual !!
I really related to your ...Great post, as usual !!<br /><br />I really related to your post because I had a similar story and although I can say this guy is off the derech, he's definitely not what I'm looking for anymore...<br />But it makes me wonder... <br />It says in the Medrash (I think) that Leah was rebuked for not wanted to marry Esav, because she aad the power and strength to make him do Teshuvah.<br />What about us? Maybe we had the power to keep them close to Torah and Mitsvot? Maybe if we did marry them they would have stayed frum?<br />Who knows? HE KNOWS...Stuck in Shidduchimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06461611507441907415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-28835423659943921852011-06-13T22:46:04.673-04:002011-06-13T22:46:04.673-04:00Wow, that personal story is really great for my pe...Wow, that personal story is really great for my perspective. Thank you for sharing it.cortihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06500543390043802580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-41844365490635695322011-06-13T16:42:32.022-04:002011-06-13T16:42:32.022-04:00Woah! That's really powerful!
It's so tru...Woah! That's really powerful!<br /><br />It's so true - of course we know deep down that everything is for our good, but when we are lucky enough to get a tiny glimpse into the full picture it increases our emunah that it's ALWAYS for the good - even for the times we don't see it.Devorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467731180285925143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-21928135179232210092011-06-13T13:22:23.611-04:002011-06-13T13:22:23.611-04:00mizrachigal - well said! It is scary, but if we ma...mizrachigal - well said! It is scary, but if we make note of it daily, we can really come to think that way every day! If my bitachon was really high, I would've been happy in the first place...before I found out this info. I'd say - ok, it's not shayach. HaShem knows what he's doing.<br /><br />Mr. Cohen - I probably misunderstood the speaker. Thank you :)Sefardi Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03041724538794932296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-68943801758472777292011-06-13T11:20:17.509-04:002011-06-13T11:20:17.509-04:00I believe that the source of the cow story is: Sef...I believe that the source of the cow story is: <i>Sefer Maasiyot</i>, by Rabbi Nissim <i>Gaon</i>, who lived from 990 to 1062. J.D. Eisenstein copied this story, "Maaseh DeRabbi Yehoshua ben Levi," into his <i>Otzar Midrashim</i>, volume 1, pages 211 to 212.<br /><br />Want quick Torah quotes for your Shabbat table?<br /><br />Or simply for love of Torah any time?<br /><br />To receive quick easy Torah quotes from <br />a variety of classic Jewish Torah books, please go to:<br /><br />http://groups.yahoo.com/group/DerechEmet/<br /><br />Quotes include: Babylonian Talmud, Jerusalem Talmud, Midrash Tanchuma, Midrash Rabah, Tanna DeBei Eliyahu, Rashi, Rambam, Ramban, Shulchan Aruch, Mishnah Berurah, Pele Yoetz, Pirkei DeRabbi Eliezer, Kav HaYashar, Shaarei Teshuvah, Sefer Chasidim, Sefer Charedim, Midrash Mishlei.<br /><br />For Jews ONLY! Thank you!Mr. Cohenhttp://groups.yahoo.com/group/DerechEmet/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2580547604062912375.post-9131445270914678132011-06-13T08:27:51.181-04:002011-06-13T08:27:51.181-04:00Wow wow wow...omg. Your story almost gave me the c...Wow wow wow...omg. Your story almost gave me the chills- that is so scary. Thank you for sharing that with us. I really needed to hear that. Perhaps Hashem is answering our Tefillos-- not by directly granting our wishes but preventing future hardship that may be so much more intensely painful and longer-lasting. <br /><br />1 step for internalizing bitachon is to remember that just like Hashem has done what is best for you in the past, He will continue to do so in the future, and presently.mizrachigalnoreply@blogger.com